He had been gone for months and was only home for two weeks, but his wife refused to get intimate with him over the new facial hair he was sporting. Whose side are you on?
As November rolls around each year, so does the facial hair. Smooth upper lips are replaced with stubble that slowly grows into something resembling Tom Selleck's upper lip.
Whether you dig facial hair or not, you have to admit Movember is a great cause. If you're not partial to your man sporting a mo, you could learn to deal with it for a few weeks of the year.
But what happens when you've only got your man home for a few weeks and you just can't get past it?
That exact thing happened to one mum who posted to parenting forum Mumsnet about her husband's facial hair getting in the way of their sex life.
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"It literally repulsed me"
"DH has been working away for months," she wrote in her post.
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"He recently came home for two weeks' leave with a moustache. He knows my feelings about facial hair. I don't mind moustaches so long as I don't need to go anywhere near them but the thought of kissing him or doing anything more with it on his face literally repulsed me."
She said she usually finds her husband "extremely attractive" but she "just couldn't see past it."
He has taken the opportunity to grow the moustache over six months thinking she would only be faced with it for the two weeks he was home so it's not a case of shaving then starting again.
She went on to say that she admitted to some friends that she hadn't had sex with her husband during the two-week period her husband was home because of the moustache.
"They couldn't believe this since he was gone for months and is now gone for months again," she said, before asking if she was being unreasonable.
"Should I have just pretended it wasn't there or can anyone relate? Is anyone similarly turned off by facial hair or is it just me who has this problem?" she asked.
The woman feels physically repulsed by the moustache. Image: iStock.
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"I am not relishing any snogging with those face pubes"
Some people agreed with the woman, with one even likening it to kissing pubes: "We haven't actually had sex since the baby was born, mostly because the baby will only sleep on one of us in the evenings, but I am not relishing any snogging with those face pubes in the way."
"I can't bear beards or moustaches either," added another. "I weirdly have no problem at all with hairy chest or even hairy backs (which I know lots of women find off-putting). I just hate the thought of kissing someone with a big bushy moustache or beard. I'd have had sex though just without any lip kissing. I'd have made it clear why as well."
Another pointed out that many women would have an issue with their men telling them how to groom their own body hair.
"I know that there will be people who will compare it with a man and a woman's armpits, leg hair or minge hair, etc. and situations reversed Yadda Yadda Yadda. But I can honestly say, if my husband had a problem with my moustache then he's well within his rights to tell me it's off-putting."
And that's exactly the direction in which many comments did go.
"I can imagine the replies if someone had written her DH (darling husband) hated her pubic hair and was withholding sex until she removed it and had told her he was doing so," wrote one person, pointing out the man would be labelled controlling among other things.
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Imagine this was about a woman's armpits? Image: iStock.
"The same gorgeous fella underneath"
Other women shared similar experiences but said they wouldn't let it get in the way of some action in the bedroom.
"Dh (darling husband) grows one for Movember every year and while I don't like it, I still have sex with him," replied one woman, adding, "He would have to peel me off of him if we'd been separated for months moustache or not."
Another said, "Given he’s only trying to grow it this once and normally respects your preferences, I would try to get over it this once and bring some physical intimacy back into the relationship. With my eyes shut if I had to!"
The general consensus was that both parties could have done more to accommodate the other for the brief time they were home. But is a moustache enough of a reason to knock back sex after months of being apart? We're not sure we could be so resolute!